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When All Hope is Lost

When All Hope Was Lost

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by Jeremy Foster
Pastor of Hope City Church

As a child, my wife, Jen, was abused sexually and physically by several different men. By the time she turned 18, the constant abuse and rejection had taken root deep down inside of her.

As a result, Jen developed a poor self-image and often dated men who mistreated her. One boyfriend threw her out of a moving car; another one pushed her head through a wall; and the list goes on and on.

Then she met me—a young man from a strong Christian family who had a completely different background. We fell in love and married nine months later, having no idea of the trouble ahead.

The Abused Became the Abuser

The abuse began on the first day of our honeymoon. Except this time, it came from her. The abuse she suffered as a child began coming out in ways she never imagined.

Over the next couple of years, I found out what it feels like to get punched in the face and literally kicked out of bed. At times, I used makeup and even wore long-sleeve shirts to hide the scratches and bruises.

I didn’t know how to handle what was happening. So, when she screamed and hollered and cussed at me, I screamed right back. The only difference is that I didn’t get physically violent.

Two years and two kids later, we simply didn’t know what to do. We loved each other deeply, but we just didn’t like each other. For the next 27 months, we lived separately. I was trusting God, but my hope for our marriage was just about gone.

An Unexpected Miracle

At the time, we lived in a small Texas town where most people knew about our situation. So, when someone asked how things were going with our marriage, I’d regretfully say, “It’s destroyed. Pray for us.”

Then something strange began happening. People would come up to me and say, “Hey, man, I talked to your wife the other day and she said that God’s going to do a miracle in your marriage.”

I thought, She’s crazy. She’s lost her mind. Our marriage is terrible, and it’s worse than it’s ever been!

What I didn’t know was that someone gave Jen a copy of Joyce’s book Battlefield of the Mind. This book gave her tools she never had before. God showed her how the enemy was working overtime to fight her in her mind, creating illusions that weren’t based on facts but on thoughts and feelings from her abusive past.

Through this book, God gave us new hope and helped reopen the lines of communication between us.

Not long after, Jen came to me with tears streaming down her face. She said, “I don’t want to be this way anymore.” That day, we started dating again and God put us back together.

Faith, Family & Coming Full Circle

Today, 18 years later, we have five amazing kids and the privilege of pastoring Hope City Church in Houston, Texas. We know that none of these blessings would even be possible without the principles God taught us through Joyce’s book.

In fact, a few years ago, it seemed like things came full circle when our oldest daughter Jayden began struggling with depression. We simply didn’t know what to do. Then one day Jen gave her a copy of Joyce’s book Battlefield of the Mind for Teens and it’s like a light went on!

Jayden, then just 15 years old, began to open up and we started to pray together. She said, “I’ve got to get control of what’s going on in my mind—because if my thoughts run wild, my life will follow.” The changes we saw in Jayden were like night and day.

Today, we are so excited to partner with Joyce Meyer Ministries and sow into the organization that God used to help save our marriage and family.

We will always look back with such gratitude at how He used the right book at the right moment to radically change the course of our lives and our ministry.

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