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Do you live under a burden of guilt and condemnation…feeling unrighteous, unworthy,
and insecure? Are you a people-pleaser, always looking for the approval of others?
If the answer to any of these is yes, then God wants to help you move beyond those
feelings, Why? Because they not only affect your personal relationships, but also
your prayer life and your ability to be promoted. And I can tell you from personal
experience, they certainly steal your joy and your peace—and that is not God's will
for you or anyone else.
I believe there are two states that can cause us to desire the approval of people:
being emotionally wounded and being caught in a pit of self-pity.
Wounds that won’t heal
Because I grew up in an environment of sexual and verbal abuse, I thought I was
wounded beyond healing. Worse, I projected the personality of my earthly
father onto God and was sure that, like my father, God was impossible to please.
If you have been hurt and wounded by people who were difficult to please, you may
think God is the same way. He isn't! It is not as difficult to please God as we
may think. Simple, childlike faith pleases Him. He already knows we will not behave
perfectly all the time. That is why He sent Jesus to pay for our failures and mistakes.
God has no problem with the knowledge of what we lack; we are the ones who have
problems with it. We often find it difficult to admit to ourselves or anyone else
that we are anything less than perfect.
Remember, God is not surprised by your inabilities, your imperfections, or your
faults. He has always known everything about you and He chose you on purpose for
Once we understand how God sees us through Christ, we can refrain from being oversensitive
to what people think about us, and feeling bad about ourselves. We don't have to
be addicted to their approval, because we already have God's approval!
Self-pity: The Self-curse
When we’re living to try to please others, we see our weaknesses as “curses.”
They’re the things in our lives that we just can’t do anything about
and will surely be our downfall in the end. It’s easy to see how this way
of thinking can turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The cure for this is simple: Give God not only what you are but especially give
Him what you are not. It is easy to offer Him our strengths, but we should also
offer Him our weaknesses because His strength is made perfect in our weaknesses.
The Apostle Paul tells us in 2 Corinthians 12:9, “’My grace is sufficient
for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast
all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.”
Don't hold anything back; give God everything!
For years, I struggled with guilt and condemnation…and feeling like I had to "pay"
for my sins by feeling bad about myself. If it was a "little" sin, I might
feel bad for a few days. But if I really blew it, it would send me on a two-week
During one of these particularly bad episodes, the Lord spoke to my heart and asked,
"Joyce, do you believe the blood of my Son Jesus paid the price for your sins?"
I said, "Yes, I do." He replied, "Well, if you plan on receiving
this forgiveness two weeks from now, why don't you just receive it now and begin
enjoying your life again?"
I learned that feeling guilty over my weaknesses doesn’t accomplish one single
thing! I don't believe I have to add my guilt to His sacrifice. His sacrifice was
complete and perfect, and no work of my flesh can improve on what He has done.
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